Does the woman go to jail too if she calls the police because her man has been hitting her? (In NC)

No.

I agree with the above answers, that you are going to have a hard time being credible. In reality, though, even if the DA knows you were lying one...

Do I need an attorney?

There are a lot of variables, and a good attorney certainly wouldn't hurt. If you get a deferred sentence, that's a good start because you'll...

Domestic violence committed against me by my fiancé . Yet I've been charged ???

You are generally allowed to use reasonable physical force in defense of yourself or others (for example, your son). According to the law, you...