So i "understand" the value of me and my ex need to get along and be parents i have and am.i just need a" honest" opinion

I am not sure what you are asking, but I would advise you to seek legal advice from an actual attorney rather than attempting to interpret the law...

Can I submit for a contempt of child custody agreement or can I do something to get custody of my kids or get 50/50 custody?

You need an experienced attorney my friend. the attorney will need to read the emails/texts and know far more specific facts about your...

I need help with possible divorce, not sure if now or I should wait til his done with custody battle.

I am really not sure what your question is, but it sounds like you are in a lot of pain. Only you can decide when the time is right for you and...

Will it set a precedent if I agree to a request from my ex to reduce alimony/child support while he is unemployed?

My heart has just stopped for a second. DO NOT make any such agreements. Your ex-husband voluntarily quit his job. His legal and moral...

Email the attorney and request a discovery conference (telephone) at their earliest convenience. If you don't get a response within a week try again.

Can you tell me if I am entitled to any of my ex-spouses pension, I received a QDRO for 50K in WA.

An attorney would be needed to review documents and give you any answer. However, generally absent some extreme circumstance a dissolution decree...

Alimony - can I stop paying this?

I would want to see your actual decree before I said yes. However, if I saw that the decree indeed said that spousal maintenance ceases if she...

My son's father refuses to bring my child home what are the laws on this?

You need to make sure the parenting plan says times correctly as you believe. If so then you need to file a motion for order to show cause in re:...

What attorney would be best suited to handle a dispute over business valuations in a divorce case?

A very good and experienced family law attorney. Will be an uphill battle so be prepared.

We received a gift of money around 20 years ago.

That answer will depend on the facts of what happened - far more facts that in your question. You will need to see an experienced family law...