Does being in the US on an H4 count in the 1 yr break that is required between H1-Bs?

You must stay out of the US for one full year to qualify for a new h visa.

Which do I have to do first after marriage. Fill out legal name change with form I-90 or only fill out form N-400.

To change your name legally for free you can do so during your naturalization but otherwise you must have a family lawyer to help you with name...

I decided to return to China. My asylum is still pending in court...should I withdraw my asylum before leaving?

You must withdraw your application in court and request VD and if granted have someone who will be in the US to post the bond if ordered so after...

Do I need to appear in court?

Normally just for a hearing scheduling your presence is not required. Your attorney should have advised you in advance.

What kind of lawyer do I need?

If you wish to file suit for malpractice then a civil litigation attorney is the right one

I have I-140 approved and going to my home country to renew L1A.

L-1a is a dual intent visa so you will not be denied just for having filed an I-140.

I was a lawfull permanent resident of the US, but i got arrested and deported for life but in the court hearing they didnt know

That depends on a lot if information which is missing here. You need a full blown consultation with an attorney who may be able to file an appeal...

My Green card is filed in eb2 category this yr. when will my spouse be able to work if she is currently on H4?

Once your spouse received the EAD card then yes. If not yet then as soon as it arrives.

Filling address for forms I-130,I-485,I-864,I-131,I-765

If you are mailing it through usps that address is not correct. You must use the po box address. Go to CIS web site and under form 485 look for...

You asked this question several times and the answer is still no. It is a civil matter not related to your eligibility for a visa or is considered...