Would you consider any of following big enough for a change from sole custody by the mother to joint custody.

Why would anyone wat joint custody under these circumstances. Why are you not going for sole?

Is this child abomdoment?

Probably not abandonment. Just bad decision making.

If he isn't around the children and you can prove that, you shouldn't have a problem. It may be hard for a judge to believe that he will never be...

What should I do about my existing protective order?

File to get it set aside or vacated but be aware that as a victim, the perpetrator will very likely abuse you again.

US Citizen, Non-resident married to a non-us citizen. How to divorce?

Contact an attorney where you live.

If i get a protective order dropped can the person get in trouble for talking to me before i got it droped?

Yes they can get in trouble if you report it.

Can 2 girls and 1 boy sleep in a RV with a parent that is living there

Yes but that does not mean it is in their best interests. Hire an attorney.

Is it consider child abandonment if one parent fails to picks up the kids on her day if she didn't call to let anyone know.

No. It's not abandonment unless she left them somewhere unsupervised.

I become a domestic victim

Yes. Ask friends or family to help you get an attorney.

I got a DUI went to court and had fines to pay but lost my job it was a misdemeanor offense now they have filled to accelerate w

The worst thing to do is not show up