How do I obtain a divorce without my spouse signing paper work

You will have to file for publication. You will need the correct paperwork which an attorney can help you with.

Call the court clerk and ask. You might also check www.oscn.net

Do I have to inform the father listed on my childs birth cert, that I am moving out of state?

I already answered this question. Please see my earlier reply.

I have an upcoming appeal for unemployment benefits in OK d/t domestic violence I voluntarily quit my job. Will I be denied?

You have a chance if you can prove your allegations.

Why was I processed in jail after court for an open container ticket?

Each case is different. Maybe your friend had an attorney. I would get an attorney if I were you.

How or why would b) have charges dropped off him, why would they still be stuck on a)? How can it be proven b) was owner?

Many reasons. Contact an attorney to help you.

Family law custody case question What are my options

There are a lot of unanswered question a here. You better get an attorney.

Is being a few days late of fine still considered failure to pay. I dont understand

Yes it's still a failure to pay. Pay the fine and the state should dismiss any charges.

You can file a Motion to dismiss but it's not likely it will be granted. You need an attorney.

Will it be worth it to show up to small claims court date since the defendant is going active duty military?

Google the deployment act. He is exempt only while deployed though.