My deacesed son's deadbeat father never paid child support can I get him for back child support?

If there is no child support order, then the answer is that you can't do anything.

DUI dropped to reckless but I am licensed n a separate state

It will catch up to you. It's just a matter of time.

What age can I child choose which parent they want to live with?

Do you have an Oklahoma or Califonia Order? That last what controls your case. If Oklahoma,!the answer is age 12, but the court is not bound by...

What should I do?

If it's true that they threaten you if you have legal counsel, that's pathetic and you should hire an attorney. You have the right to defend yourself.

What are my rights?

He needs a lawyer to at least file for paternity and maybe a DNA test.

Can you own a firearm with a VPO against you?

Probably not. See an attorney to address your specific situation.

Should I bother going to court?

You are entitled to a bench trial but the judge will probably rule in favor of the cop.

The attorney's comments herein are correct. He needs an attorney.

I am being charged with second subsequent poss. Of CDS am I going to prison?

You better get an attorney to reduce your chances of incarceration.

What are my rights as a father to go to Oklahoma and pick my 2 sons up and bring them back to Kansas to stay with me?

You need a lawyer to file for emergency custody here and/or in Kansas. Oklahoma will ultimately have jurisdiction.