Posting this question on a website is very dangerous. A crime has been comitted.

Do I go by the vacate by date on the journal entry of judgement letter I got in the mail after I went to court or the date judg.

The journal entry that is written controls over what the judge said/did in court.

Is there any advantage to filing for divorce before your spouse does?

There is no advantage to filing first. The only disadvantage is you have to pay the filing and service fee if you file first.

Does my spouse have any obligation to help support our 23 year old disabled son?

He has a duty to support provided the disability occurred prior to the 18th birthday.

What is the statute of limitations on pos of a controlled sub. 1-4 grams

An attorney can subpoena the tapes. Assuming this happened recently, statute of limitations won't help you here.

She is the age of consent but it's stil not a good idea.

UA test?

Your probation could be revoked and you would go to jail.

Can I file for and abandonment on my daughters father?

If you are married, you can claim abandonment.

No, it's not a court order. Dona formal guardianship through an attorney.

Abandonment takes a year to justify. It also depends on whether your married.