Can I take a drug test before court if I know my ex will want me to for custody of my son ?

You can and hopefully you will pass.

Would any of you with a vast amount of knowledge is child support willing to help me out without a large retainer up front?

Call around and get pricing. Many of us offer free consultations and have reasonable retainers and hourly rates.

Can i get grandparents rights for my 6yr old grandson? Probono? What do i need to do how to get started?

I doubt anyone able to do this pro bono. Also, you may have to file in Vancouver if the mom and dad and child no longer live in Oklahoma. Get an...

Can I not alow my child to go to the fathers house because he is living with a suspected rapist ?

Maybe. It's better if you have a court order.

Is there an easier way going about this to make it less cost sufficient and drama free?

The court can still give you guardianship even if the dad won't consent. You need a lawyer.

Will I be in violation of a protective order?

Probably not but you may want to get it amended.

Can DHS remove my grandson from my home?

Yes they can. You better get a lawyer if you want any chance against DHS.

Ex refused to tell me daycare expenses for years, then filed for contempt against me for not paying my share. What now?

You may be found guilty of contempt if it can be proved by clear and convincing evidence that you willfully violated a court order. Get an attorney.

You have got to get an attorney to help you as there is a lot going on here.

Will I go to jail if my ex is going asking for 5,400 dollars back child support even though this our first hearing?

The judge probably won't care if you don't have an attorney. You pose a lot of questions here. Contact an attorney.