What can I do to change my F1 status and get a permanent one to stay with my pregnant girlfriend and how likely will I succeed ?

You need to contact an immigration lawyer now or specially since Trump is in office. Use the find a lawyer tab on this website.

Can she have abandonment charges filed against her?

Only the DA can file charges and abandonment usually takes a year. Contact child support or an attorney to set up child support after she is served.

It’s not clear what you are asking here.

Can my ex-wife deny me summer visitation with my son if I move to Germany due to military relocation?

Meet with an attorney and deal with this BEFORE you move.

How long does it take to consider abandonment?

Follow the other attorneys’ remarks herein.

IIm currently on probation .I've done everything asked of me ie classes ect I'm still paying clerks fines and monthly probation

Follow the other attorneys’ remarks herein.

How long do I have till I can go back home with my family?

It’s not clear what is going on here. Elaborate.

It could be malicious destruction of property or criminal mischief.

I don’t understand what you are asking here.

Can I add my boyfriend of 8 years to my daughters birth certicate without permission of bio father.

If the parent’s rights have not been terminated, you have to notice him and get a court order.