How should I defend myself against my criminal charges if I'm the co-defanent

You shouldn't defend yourself in court. You should hire an attorney to defend you in court. As the old saying goes ... a person who defends...

Could I have violated the grounds of my probation

Technically yes. Not likely though.

Crime of moral turpitude. Not a good way to go through life.

I just want to confirm that this has nothing to do with probating a will?

What charges if any can come from this?

Probably nothing. We get a question with a similar fact pattern every few weeks. Scam!!!

I was arrested almost 9 years ago for a dui my job is putting me on their car insurance is it going to show up in the backgroun

Get a background check through osbi. Google it. Costs $15. That will tell you what's on record with Oklahoma law enforcement.

Did the plea paperwork say that could not be possessed? Usually it's just firearms that are illegal fo felons to possess.

CDS charge. Out on 200 dollar bond. Court tomorrow and still no lawyer. What do I do.

Get a couple of jobs. McDonald's is always hiring.

Does getting a charge deferred mean that it is no longer on your record?

If it's expunged then it's no longer on your public record.

What if you can't make a probation payment on time and it's unsupervised?

Pawn something, get a new job, do odd jobs for cash, borrow money. There's plenty of ways to get money. Just gotta work for it.