How do I know how much money is in my mom's estate and if it being spent appropriatlely?

You could request an accounting but it would be up to the POA unless the court orders it.

Contact an attorney and file suit.

Can a parent legal kick a child out of their home, if so what age?

She would have to be 19 before they can kick her out.

Am I due a refund for charges my minor child made online with my debit card?

Talk with your bank about having the charged reversed. You should have see this on your account statement.

My mom is not in a good situation financially and I'm wondering if there are any government programs that could assist her?

Sorry, does not sound like she can be helped.

My soon to be ex filed for divorce in June n cashed out his 401k about 2 else ago. can he do that?

You would have had to sign the papers and agree to the decree. I would get a lawyer and have him served. You may be able to get some of the 401k...

How do I get a title for my car? I filed a claim in small claims court he showed for 1 hearing and not the next.

Now you should be able to take it to DMV and have them issue you a title to the car.

I have a medical bill that went in to collection back in November of 11 for my child i that i birthed.

Something may be better then nothing, but they don't have to agree to take it. Your best bet is to try to work out an agreement to avoid it going...

If there are 2 co-guardians for a person who is incompetent, what happens if they do not agree on decision for her care?

It will likely have to go back to court and be resolved.

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Get a lawyer and you should be OK.