You should really consult your own atty in this matter.

My stepfather committed murder/suicide on my mother.. My youngest sister appointed benefactor of estate.. No will. We have 2

Where's your mom in all of this? Shouldn't she be looking for stuff too?

I was passed over for a promotion due to my relationship with the owner (stepfather) GM passed me up solely because of this

This is an employment question not a probate one.

Small estate means that you intend to handle all the matters without opening a full estate. The filing fee and publication costs (due there being...

Do I have to split the cost of administrative fees for the probate when the probate was unnecessary?

Retain an atty to object to her fees.

My Boyfriend mother past and left him a insurance policy for him and sisters .Sister claim their part but boyfriend did not?

I don't think this is a probate question. Life ins. proceeds with a named beneficiary pass outside of probate.

To keep probated home do I need to file for homestead to make sure its not sold

If the home was "probated" then to whom was it distributed? This will determine what the next step should be.

Which is better option if family stole over 85 percent of estate and then left nothing for heir but home ,

You are using terms of art that some atty has obviously shared with you. I really think you need to go with an atty that knows all the facts.

The lawyer I currently have has been sitting on this probate estate since we first started in December of 2012 up to current now

We can't give you legal advice but the pragmatic response would be to have a "come to awareness" moment with your atty.

Does my other relatives that were left out of the will have to be notified of an Ancillary will? in Oklahoma?

Good luck, the answer is still the same, retain a good OK atty and follow their advice.