I would suggest you contact an estate atty who can give you the options to pursue to protect your interests including but not limited to possibly...

Can I just sell the house with out going before a judge

If, as counsel has suggested, you are court appointed then you need court approval. You should seek legal assistance in any event to make sure you...

I would suggest you retain local counsel to help you in this matter. You might have a claim against the estate for services rendered. You might...

Can l go off medicaid and go back on it after i spend the money the way i want?

Counsel will need more info to answer this question. Why not ask a local atty to give you assistance on this matter?

If I appear in court to represent myself, will I be able to go through the entire list and refute any/all of the accusations ?

NEVER go before a Judge where you are accused of wrongdoing without legal counsel.

What kind of lawyer do we need?

You need to discuss this issue with an atty familiar with your facts and with the analysis which the APS based their opinion on.

How can my dad do this without my sister contesting the trust?

Provided the trust is not irrevocable then he should be able to amend the trust. I suggest you contact the lawyer who wrote the trust and have him...

How do I get my parents house and belongings from the executor?

You really need local counsel to look at the deed on the home and the will to let you know what your options are. Its possible the home went under...

I receive $857 per month in survivor benefits. When I apply for my ssa retirement benefits will my survivor benefits be reduced?

If you are on medicaid and food stamps you should ask your caseworker this question.

Find a good probate litigator to discuss this matter with.