Were you listed as the enumerated residuary legatee?

Executor not doing job

As counsel suggested, you need to hire your own lawyer to figure these issues out and if necessary, to file some sort of accounting action for you.

Am I entitled to get my records back, been 2 months/what can be done if this executor has filed for estate without my knowledge?

Hire a lawyer to get the records back.

Need to know if I even have A leg to stand on.I know my Brother misapropiated the estate monies to to better himself.

Talk to a lawyer in the county and state where your father resided at the date of death and see if they can help you.

My sister did a transfer affadavit in Texas for my dead mom's car before we began to probate her will, will she get in trouble ?

You need to consult with a local atty who can give you an authoritative answer to your question.

My mother just died. Her last will is not being probated. What needs to happen?

You need to hire a lawyer who can file the amendment as the law dictates.

How can we get the problematic brother removed as personal representative?

Consult with the lawyer that got you three appointed.

Is there anyway to force a will to probate if the executrix is placing restrictions on me before she will release any funds??

It depends on whether there is property to be probated. You need to contact a local atty in the county where the decedent died.

How do I probate the will to act as his representative in the law suit?

Retain a probate atty in the state and county where he died as a resident to give you the input about opening a probate estate.

Does my Dad's daughter in law automatically get Dad's share of co-owned property because my brother has passed?

If you want a fully informed binding answer to this question, you need to ask an atty licensed in NJ who has seen all the documents and reviewed...