Can i avoid being deposed by my soon to be exhusbands criminal lawyer in which i have an order of protection against?

No.

Pay or hire an attorney to contest.

I have a felony shoplifting charge i had a previous midameanor charge that was dismissed what am i looking at for a sentence?

Probably probation. Hire an attorney for the best outcome.

My girlfriend of eight years recently filed for a tro in it was a lot of lies and it even said I beat her no evidence to support

Its possible.

Can my girlfriend win a op for domestic violence without proof of abuse

Its possible.

Will I go to jail for being in possession of a stolen dog?

Probably not.

My ex husband after divorce calls my daughter on my phone and uses it as an opportunity to insult me and make derogatory remark

It depends on the terms of your divorce.

Does filing a police report prevents my daughter from getting a job, becoming a felon, or going to jail.

Yes.

Does filing a police report prevents my daughter from getting a job, becoming a felon, or going to jail.

If she is charged it will be a felony which will definitely interfere with her finding work.

Should i plead guilty to retail thief if they have me on camera?

If it's on camera you will probably not be able to win at trial.