Is there such a document that an applicant may sign that releases medical history that more than ten years ago?

If you sign an authorization then they can order whatever they like. Speak with your attorney about limiting the scope of the authorization.

What recourse do I have to get my case settled when the attorney is ignoring me?

schedule a meeting and if you are not satisfied then hire a new attorney.

If I sue, can the driver claim bankruptcy after the trial and get out of paying all my bills?

Consult a personal injury attorney. The first order of business is to see if there is any insurance to pursue.

Thafully you were not hit. I do not think you would have a case but confirm with local counsel.

What I can I do to let the family no this not ok

Yes that is a reasonable theory but probably is not necessary.

What do I do if someone is claiming I rear-ended them (which I kinda did) but there is NO DAMAGE (damage only to my car) ?

Report the incident to your insurance company and relax.

What are my options here. What will and wont my insurance cover. My car is now totaled am I covered for a new one?

Consult a personal injury attorney as soon as possible. you have a good case and a serious situation.

Would i still have a case for damages or pain and suffering

Consult with a malpractive attorney as soon as possible.

Can I sue? what are my options?

No damages no claim. Return it for a new pizza.

What can i do, do i need a lawyer

If you get served then get an attorney.