Custody is no longer a legal term here. The daughter's age and desires can be a factor in determining where she wants to live, but the court has...

I don't have a lawyer, we had the same one and he couldn't talk to me. So it sounds like I have no recourse in this matter?

Your recourse is to find a lawyer of your own, and a good one at that, to represent you in the divorce.

VA Disability Comp. -Is this calculated in alimony even if no children, and it was awarded and I was discharged before marriage?

Using 1 attorney is a big no no. You should have your own attorney representing you and protecting your interests. If the judge could most...

Will the new divorce and custody laws in Illinois have an effect on previous divorce/custody settlements and agreements?

The new law will be in play if you file any motions now. If you do want to file a motion, you should first set up a consult with a good family law...

What is a "business divorce?"

Not sure-it has no legal relevance. It could mean that when people own a business and get divorced the court has to figure out what to do with the...

How do I get him out of my life legally ASAP b/c he is refusing to leave the house and refusing to pay his way there.

File a paternity action and a motion to set child support. You should hire an attorney to represent you in this matter. Many offer free consults.

If you have a defined pension benefit as opposed to a 401k, how do you you split that in divorce if you are far from retirement?

Do not sign anything. You should hire an attorney. The marital portion of all retirement assets must be divided by the court. Once a divorce is...

Speaking strictly in terms of legal implications, does it really matter who filed for divorce if you settled out of court?

It does not matter who files first, but a divorce must be on file to finalize the case.

Can anyone help me

Yes lawyers will help. Reach out to them and set up a phone or in person consult to discuss payment options.

How should I handle this situation? Let it go before a judge, threaten exposure?

I don't necessarily think threatening her with this is the right way to go. You should sit down and talk to a good family law attorney about the...