Can they really do that to us? Do they know its 2 different claims? What do I do?

If you have auto insurance then turn the claim over to them ASAP. Good luck.

Should the other party be liable for my out of pocket expenses? Should I file a suit with the other party to collect my financia

Not sure what your "extra expenses" are, but if your son was injured then talk with a personal injury attorney ASAP to explore your legal...

I need a lawyer to scare the bejeezus out of Geico. And I want money for the car and pain and suffering. I had no medical care

You need to talk with an attorney experienced in handling first party bad faith cases where people sue their insurance companies for behavior like...

Do I need a lawyer or does his insurance company hansle this case.

This appears to be something that should be handled by your friend's insurance company, but you were never personally served. I would talk with the...

Can I sue the man who hit us? What can I legally do about those $5,000?

This is something you should be asking your attorney.

Would i have any luck pursuing this in small claims court?

Given the other driver couldn't afford comprehensive, the odds that you are able to recover anything in small claims court are not good.

Will I be able to settle the lawsuit by myself or will I be required to find an attorney to do it.

You should have an experienced attorney review your settlement and see if you even have to pay back your insurance company. Good luck.

What do I do next?

Since you already have an attorney you need to talk to him/her about this. It id not proper for us to given advice to someone who already is...

Sorry for your loss. You should contact a local probate attorney ASAP. Good luck.

What is my best strategy to deal with this?

You do not want to jeopardize your insurance coverage by not cooperating with your insurance company. From your question it seems that your...