This is not a DIY project. The defendant needs to speak with an attorney.

Do I have to provide insurance if he is in Kansas?

Yes. There is a clause in the Constitution, Article IV, Section 1, called the "Full Faith and Credit Clause." Under that clause, all the states...

How can i make sure the courts will see that the children are unsafe with there father?

Tread very carefully before calling DHS.

Do I legally have grounds to sue her for withholding my deposit and for having me pay another months rent?

Entrapment? This "friend" has either watched too much, or not enough, Law and Order. Without a lease, you are operating on some kind of month...

Is it legal for her to invade my privacy like this and use my pictures without my permission. What recourse is possible for me

If you've put pictures on Facebook, you do not have a reasonable expectation to privacy in those pictures. Your recourse is to stop posting...

What is the best way to fight a civil suit against the OIG? Where do I start?

(1) You need an attorney who knows how to deal with the OIG; and (2) You need to be willing to spend some money to have him/her review in detail...

Can I legally ask them/require them to replace it for what I paid?

Nope. You are entitled to a recovery of the value of the damage caused to the fridge. If I'm driving my yellow 1978 Ford Maverick down the...

How do I apply to modify custody? What form do I need?

The Iowa Supreme Court had forms put together for pro se litigants, and they are on the judicial branch web site, which I've attached at the link.

Want to know my rights

If your name is on the title, I'm not sure how he is going to just put his name on there. I would do a little digging and see what has actually...

Can i go after the lock company for damages? Landlord tenant laws in Iowa clearly say she violated access protocol.

Your remedy (if any) is more likely against your landlord than the franchise lock company.