Can I stay at a different residence in the same state and county while on probation?

Can't you just leave each other alone for a few days so you can talk this over with your PO before making a move that might trigger a violation?...

What kinda drug can you get a agg possession of drug and it be a felony 5

There are an enormous number of possible drugs here: (1) If the drug involved in the violation is a compound, mixture, preparation, or substance...

How can take points off my commercial driving record?

You cannot remove points from your Ohio driving record. They just fall off over time.

You could certainly request monitoring instead of jail, though I seriously doubt the judge will sentence you to jail. Monitoring is not mandatory...

If you successfully completed diversion, you were not convicted.

Is it common to have a hearing about a violation of a restraining order which a deputy read to me right before the hearing

You should have been served with the order. If you truly were not, you cannot be guilty of knowingly violating it. I suggest you hire an attorney.

It sounds to me like it's an APA hold. The Adult Parole Authority may be planning to bring him up on a violation, which could return him to prison.

Can a lawyer simply ask a judge to add them and their biz to a restraining order just by asking

You can ask a judge for anything. Lots of times you won't get what you want, but I'm guessing the judge granted that request here.

Judge issued a restraining order without any threat of physical harm and based only on non threating text messages

Threats are not necessary (though they are common) to a restraining order.

A detective called me and harassed me about yelp.com postings! he said the prosecutor told him to call me

They should not be contacting you if they know you are represented by counsel. That is not common practice.