When you have a spouse to adopt your child.

The most recent order is what is in effect. The paralegal played you.

Parents are to support a child's activities, that includes transportation.

Sleeping over is visitation. NCP can ask for anything.

Get an annulment, if you qualify. .

No, POA ends when the principal dies. You need to see if there is a probate case.

Yes they can and it can continue until they are satisfied that you aren't using drugs. You will need many weeks of clean screens.

You have insurance per your statement above. The prosecutor cannot stop you from requesting child support.

If there is no establishment of paternity then you have no rights because there are no orders. Do whatever it takes to get an attorney ASAP.

There is nothing that can be done until you file for divorce. Clearly, you need court orders to force other parent to comply.