If a mother is found "unfit" is she allowed to be left unattended with any kids, hers or not, under any circumstances?

Legally unless there is an order saying she can't be left alone with your kids it is not against the law. I would suggest retaining an attorney to...

What to do to beat this

Retain an attorney to represent you immediately. This is not the type of thing to try and handle by yourself.

It's considered mitigated statutory rape in the state of Tennessee for a 16 year old to have sex with someone 5 years older than them. It's an E...

Can I possibly get away from this being on my record since its my first time?

You may be eligible for diversion. You need to consult with an attorney ASAP. Best of luck!

What options are available if the Police decides to send a case to Grand Jury instead of allowing me to swear a warrant?

If the grand jury finds probable cause to believe a crime was committed and that he was the one who committed it then they will issue a true bill...

Is this considered child abandonment

If you want child support you need to file a petition to set support. If he has not yet been legitimated as the child's father that will need to be...

What should I expect if he really decides to pursue this in court? Should I do anything even if he doesn't?

If you all were never married and have never been to court before over custody or visitation the child is by default in your full custody. You can...

What can we expect?

Hire an attorney to represent his interests. Also to my knowledge there is no crime in the TN code for date rape. There is rape, rape of a child,...

He has spent 100 or more days locked up while waiting for court date for violation..what do you see judge sentencing him to?

He needs to retain an attorney ASAP. No one can tell you what will happen until they are able to review all of the pertinent information and meet...

Will time have to be served? What are possible outcomes?

It depends on a lot of different factors. The biggest is usually prior criminal history. Consult with an attorney ASAP