Me and my wife have been separated for 2 years we are planing to get a divorce she is planing to move out of the state

You should hire an attorney. The judge can decide how visitation is exercised and who pays for travel.

How does my friend get the D.A. to make a deal when he can't even get his court appointed lawyer to answer his calls?

He needs to hire an attorney. Many court appointed lawyers are good, but many court appointed lawyers sometimes don't care, or don't do their job.

Can the police break down my door with a verbal search warrant?

I have never heard of a verbal no-knock search warrant in Alabama. I would hire an attorney as soon as possible. Was it the Feds, county or state?

Can my fiance's ex-wife tell him that he is not allowed to bring his daughter around me?

Yes, as long as the divorce decree does not say anything different.

1st time offender theft of about 50-100 dollars chances of going to jail

Almost zero chance of jail. Talk to attorney. You are a juvenile and your file will be sealed as juvenile.

Would pretrial diversion work on a settlement basis?

You need to ask your attorney about any class available to avoid felony conviction.

Your too old. You can't have turned 21 at the time of the offense. Look for pretrial diversion. We do it all the time.

Is there a way to exsponge your record in alabama

There is no way to expunge in Alabama.

I was accused of first degree theft. the report reads it happened in a different location. can i have those charges dropped?

It does not always matter where it was taken. All that matters is if they can prove who took it. Consider theft diversion. Good chance of probation.

How can i find a lawyer that would possibly want to do some probono work on a domestic violence case?

Have you tried legal aid? You might contact local bar association. Hard to get pro bono on domestic cases. Very stressful and time consuming.