What are my options to get my son back?

Your only option is to hire an attorney to be your advocate.

Is the power of attorney legal for my mom and what happens if there is no will or power of attorney for my father.

POA's are void upon death. Mother's POA would be valid if signed while competent and not valid if proven incompetent.

Was it a mismangement of the trust to give my father (who was heavily in debt) the proceeds that went to the trust?

If the trustee distributed assets out of the trust against the language of the trust-then the answer would be YES. If the trustee made a proper...

Is this just for the purpose of the Will, or does this give her control of the assets?

First-it doesn't make any difference to you since you are not a beneficiary. Second-the fiduciary has a very minor role if your mother is...

What can I do about getting ownership of home.

It would be best to have a beneficiary agreement with your brother. He consents to you being the executor and receiving 100% of the house.

Can my wife easily get my bank accounts and IRA when I die?

Just name her as a beneficiary-why would you not want to?

Does my Employer have the right to ask if my father will be going to a nursing home, or instruct me when to use FMLA

I think if the employer has reason to believe that your father is going to be in a nursing home- then you don't need time off to care for a sick...

Affidavit of Heir ship ?

If you can prove undue influence, or incompetence, or fraud-you can have the deed set aside and grand.mothers estate would then go through...

Can I still try to press charges against me. And what do I do about not having the receipts

Yes-anything is possible-try to re-create the best you can how the money was used.

I don't think you will get every detail you need in this forum in order to do this yourself. You will make mistakes and get bad results or have to...