You can file the answer and counter-petition by e-filing. You do not have to use a process server

Can i legally go out of state with mine and my husbands children?

You can take the child out of state anytime. However, if you Husband files for divorce and he objects to the child permanently living with your...

If you ex-wife's fiancé is supporting your wife you may be able to argue that she does not need alimony or not as much alimony that you are paying.

You should mutually agree on a guardian ad litem. If you can't find any of your ex-wife's acceptable, then you can also pick your own. If you...

If you are not served do you still have to go

You need to be personally served. You have to have notice in order to go to Court. Once your served you should seek advice from attorney

If a family law judge has not made an order 4 weeks after a hearing, what is the proper procedure?

You can set the case for a case status hearing and ask the judge for an order

Can I file an amended petition after I attend mediation?

You if the opposing attorney agrees or you can go to court to ask to amend. It is easily granted in my jurisdiction.