5th Special Forces Group Officer's GOMOR Rescinded in Full
Apr 15, 2022OUTCOME: GOMOR rescinded in full.
A 5th Special Forces Group lieutenant gave a senior NCO $9,000, a place to stay, and his weekends so the NCO could see his children during a brutal divorce. The Army called it fraternization. The ... First Lieutenant was serving as the Executive Officer for a support company at Fort Campbell. The senior NCO was in his company. He was going through a contested divorce, dealing with a protective order, struggling financially, and fighting to maintain supervised visitation with his children. He had legal fees, investigator fees, family stress, and a bank account that had gone negative. He was also a combat veteran with serious personal strain from the divorce and custody fight. The First Lieutenant got too involved. He gave the senior NCO roughly $9,000 through Venmo and PayPal. He let the senior NCO stay at his apartment while he stayed elsewhere. He supervised visits between the senior NCO and his children. He later wrote a memorandum on unit letterhead describing what he had personally observed during those visits and supporting the senior NCO's fitness as a father. He did all of it because he thought he was helping a Soldier in crisis. The process was wrong. The motive was not. The AR 15-6 investigation started much uglier than it ended. The allegations included a prohibited relationship, wrongful use of cocaine, and solicitation of prostitution. The drug and prostitution allegations came from the senior NCO's estranged wife during the divorce. She later retracted those allegations and described them as statements made out of anger and frustration during an emotionally taxing divorce. The Investigating Officer found no evidence that the First Lieutenant used cocaine and no evidence that he solicited prostitution. What remained was the prohibited relationship allegation. The Investigating Officer found limited evidence that the relationship could be viewed as partial treatment. But the same Investigating Officer did not find that the First Lieutenant had given the senior NCO preferential treatment. He did not find that the relationship had negatively affected the First Lieutenant's performance as Executive Officer. He found that the First Lieutenant exercised poor judgment and became overly involved in the senior NCO's divorce, but that he appeared to be acting out of genuine concern for the senior NCO's well being. The Investigating Officer recommended no punitive or adverse administrative action. The Group Commander modified the findings. He added a finding that the financial transfer violated AR 600-20, removed the recommendation for no adverse action, and forwarded the case for adverse administrative action. The Commanding General issued a GOMOR on the fraternization theory only. The cocaine and prostitution allegations were not part of the GOMOR. Bilecki submitted the GOMOR rebuttal to the Commanding General at Fort Bragg. The rebuttal did not pretend the First Lieutenant handled everything correctly. He should have elevated the issue through the chain of command. He should have used Army systems already built for financial distress, housing problems, family crisis, and visitation issues. He should not have tried to solve the senior NCO's divorce crisis himself. But the rebuttal made clear what this was not. This was not corruption. It was not favoritism. It was not exploitation. It was not personal gain. It was not a sexual relationship. It was a young officer with access to money, a strong instinct to take care of Soldiers, and poor judgment about how far he could go before help became a prohibited relationship. The $9,000 was given as a gift, not a loan. There was no interest. No repayment demand. No contract. No business relationship. No proof that the First Lieutenant received anything in return. The senior NCO's own statement said the money was given to help him get out of debt and pay bills connected to the divorce. The Commanding General rescinded the GOMOR in full. No AMHRR filing. No local filing. No adverse administrative action.