How can establish consistency and possibly eliminate the harassment and threats?

It sounds like you are in a complicated situation and have several interrelated questions. I'd advise having an in-person consult with an attorney...

How important/influence will the opinions/wants of my 15 yr.old daughter matter in this situation?

Since you all are in Alabama, Alabama courts would have jurisdiction. Seek an attorney in your state for the answers to your questions.

CAN YOU HELP ME AND MY BROTHER WITH ADVICE ON THIS SITUATION

It is very unlikely that your brother will be able to get the baby without any "hassle" from DCF. If there is a dependency case and he is the...

How much am I looking to pay for a criminal defense lawyer an how likely is it to get a diversion...??

You need to talk to a lawyer that practices in the county in which you were arrested. You can use the "Find a lawyer" link to located one. While...

What sort of proof do I need in order to have him removed from his fathers custody?

If you are concerned for a child's safety and believe they are being abused or neglected, you can call the Florida Abuse hotline at 1-800-96-ABUSE....

I was wondering is there any way I can go back to court to modify my case plan and maybe get some things taken off

You likely were appointed an attorney during your DCF case. You should contact them as a first step. It is possible to reopen these cases, but...

If he has not been determined to be the legal father (and it sounds like he hasn't) then he has absolutely no rights to the child. You can move out...

What will happen if we stopped her visitation all together? Would we be in contempt of court?

You need to be careful. Many times people who are granted permanent guardianship through dependency court believe that they get to make all the...

Do I have to communicate with my sons father prior to going to court for custody?

You did not mention whether you were or are married to the child's father. If he his not the "legal father" - something many people do not...

Ms. Murphy is correct, the police are unlikely to be much help. If you have not hired a family attorney to represent you in the divorce you should...