Refusal of active duty military to sign an answer and waiver

Who says that he is required to sign anything? Unless there is a court order, of course. If there is a court order requiring him to sign, then...

What is my rights and what can I do?

Your rights are to pay for the services rendered. Pay them the $350. If they refuse to take the $350, then you may have to enlist an attorney...

What kind of lawyer could help recover at least some of the money? We believe their refusal might be the start of a negotiation.

Hire an attorney and sue the bank. You'll probably get the money back before the first hearing.

Since they made the modifications and overlooked the hose in question while waterproofing shouldn't they be liable for damages?

If they made the modifications as agreed, then you have little recourse. If they were supposed to modify the factory hose, then you might have a...

Attorneys act as trustees all the time. No problem there. The pro is that you are likely to have a quicker response from an attorney than from...

Do I need a lawyer to work with me through this process and protect my interests? Can they demand payment beyond the $200/mo?

Sn attorney would have to see the restitution order. There might be language about adjusting the payment based on your ability to pay.

Is this fraud? Can I press charges?

More information is needed. I do not see fraud here. Go in to the bank and have the bank remove you from the account.

Can I send my support documents to NVC while I'm outside of the country and not working?

Your question is unclear. Please explain EXACTLY what it is that you are trying to do.

If my ex claims our daughter on his taxes, can I also use her for ther earned income credit?

At this time of year, those tax preparation kiosks and storefronts pop up all over the place. Go into one of them and simply ask. Because they...

Are we being discriminated?

Your post is somewhat confusing as presented. Read your employment contract. If you do not have a contract, then you are an 'at will' employee...