You post conclusions, but no facts. This is a general Q&A forum. You likely need to meet with a local employment law attorney to have them review...

So register as a guess. Seems like a simple solution.

This is not a matter for the courts. Candidly, if it is causing you this much stress, I recommend counseling.

The law doesn't dictate every minutiae of our lives. Check your lease.

For ethical reasons, the attorneys who volunteer to answer questions on this site cannot reach out to you.

It is no more a HIPAA violation then listing that you require glasses or are an organ donor.

Depends on how busy the judge is, and other related matters.

Because most judges have seen the issues before and have read all the evidence ahead of time.

You need a family law attorney familiar with DFAS and QDROs to review the QDRO, review the letter from DFAS and properly advise you. But, yes, an...

This is why you never buy a car without having a mechanic thoroughly check it out. As is means what it says. A lawyer may be able to force their hand.