Can a Judge decide whether you can plead a first offenders act on a charge?

Yes they do. These are serious charges. If you don't have counsel already, get one.

Do i need a lawyer to get a diversion for a first time felony drug use charge

You should definitely retain counsel.

Is is probable that my son will do time in prison or in jail?

I am not an OR attorney, but as you can see this is complicated. He needs experienced counsel now.

My 4 children and I were refused shelter during a tornado warning by the manager of the trailer park we live in.

I agree. Being an awful person is not necessarily a crime.

Can someone tell me where I can find a military attorney to file a lawsuit against the military in a federal court?

Whether a lawyer is willing to take on such a case will depend on the possible basis for the lawsuit.

Can I get my chapter 14-12c turned into a chapter 9. If so how?

Theses cases r very fact specific. U need to either retain counsel or go to TDS and have them review the entire packet.

I self referred to army ASAP the first time 4 months later I'm command referred what will my discharge be?

None of us can guess what type of discharge u will get as it is up to ur command. But u didn't do urself any favors.

Can my husband receive an early honorable discharge from the National Guard due to mental health problems?

It is possible, but it has to be initiated by the command based on advice from his treating mental health care providers.

I am not an NC lawyer, but as Mr. Dummit states, it should not be an issue. My son just had to do the same thing here in GA and there were no issues.

Will this show up on an FBI background check for NY State Bar Certification?

I have sat on bar committees, and I don't see any way this shows up.