Many years ago my husband filed for a unilateral foreign divorce which i was informed previously was not valid ...

Forget the first "divorce." It is not valid. You have a lot at stake here. Retain local counsel and follow their advice.

What happens now and will this affect his military status?

As a parent I know you want to believe your son but the police don't impound cars without a reason. But assuming the above story is true he will...

Does being a disabled veteran in any way help with a bankruptcy?

You should repost this to bankruptcy but I doubt it.

Maybe. I have one client who is an EMT and has a special court martial conviction. It really depends on the place where you are applying.

If I Have a settlement check for $125,000.00 can I take it to the bank that it was drawn from and get cash for it ?

Most banks will let you deposit a check of that amount, but require a waiting period to withdraw the money.

Appeals: What is the appropriate Where, When, What of setting up grounds for an appeal in trial court? There are several...

Appeals are limited to what happened at trial. So if it isn't in the transcripts, it generally cannot ge appealed.

My military spouse pinched and choked me, can I press charges?

There is a common misconception that a victim can or cannot press charges. Neither is true. You can report it to the police and or his command, and...

What can he do legally?

There are not enough details here to answer the question. But your friend would be wise to consult with local counsel.

Can a retired Judge sign off on my divorce papers? Is this even legal? I was divorced by on retired judge and faxed my papers

Duplicate answer. You will get the same answers.

Retired judges do this all the time. Whether it was proper in your particular situation is a question for a lawyer.