Can a misdemeanor domestic violence charge prevent you from getting DOD clearance?

Can it? Yes. Will it? Impossible to tell. There are numerous factors that go into adjudication of a clearance.

Do i need an attorney

Most definitely. You need someone advocating on your behalf.

Is it right

Is it right? That's a subjective test. Is it legal? Yes.

Can they do this?

Bottom Line: You don't have to let them do this, and they don't have to keep you working for them.

Judge orders no-contact, denies my civil standby, I lose my home, business & everything, even when g/f states "I'm not abusive".

You have offered a lot of legal conclusions but have not asked a question, which is what this site is for.

Does the State Attorney have more power then a District Judge?

It's like asking if a football team is better than a baseball team. They are different.

Can I sue the army's homeowners insurance being it happened in the front yard of military housing or just the soldier

The Army does not have "homeowner's insurance." The process is to file a claim under the Federal Tort Claims Act within two years of injury....

I am preparing small claim against a Honda Dealer Shop for refund extended warranty.

I am not a NJ lawyer, but I don't see how you win this case. It is like buying term life insurance and not dying and demanding a refund, or buying...

Should I seek other professional help

I agree with Mr. Rada. You can use AVVO to find a VA certified lawyer in your area.

Your parents had the authority to consent on your behalf. As such, I see no grounds to sue.