This would be resolved during your divorce proceedings.

Not a legal matter. Speak to your landlord.

You cannot join the military with a felony.

Lawsuits are expensive, and you will probably never collect your money. You can try the website's dispute resolution process, but other than that...

It sounds like you didn't eat it, and were not harmed, in which case there are no grounds to sue.

Lawsuits are expensive and time consuming. You just need to keep trying to work it out with them.

None of us can predict what your employer will do.

Not only can they threaten to fire you, they can fire you.

You ask if he can order your husband to divorce you, and the answer is no. And no commander would give such an order. You then state he was ordered...

Fairly common scam. They threaten you and get you to pay them. Ignore it.