The 19 year old could be a predator. The 13 year old needs to ask her parents.

If I understand your question correctly you are saying that the person who paid the fees on behalf of the inmate now wants his/her money back. It...

You don't get to escape your responsibilities as a parent because you have lots of kids.

Yes you can. So now you get to hire a lawyer and defend yourself in court.

It would be up to a judge to decide but IMO you are.

That is a question for your parents, not lawyers. No way my 15 year old daughter would have dated a 19 year old.

Not at all weird. He needs to lawyer up now. Not later.

Like any potential safety violation you don't get to decide whether to comply. Speak to your union rep and look into retaining an employment law...

This is not a DIY project. You are facing serious consequences and need to retain an attorney ASAP.

No special steps needed to make your separation "legal." The military rarely punishes adultery these days.