Are you the attorney? If so, call the state Bar for guidance.

There are numerous other potential crimes when an adult has sex with a child. Keep your pants on.

A lawsuit will cost thousands and take years. Given your lack of economic damages it would be a losing proposition.

Depends on your parents and his parents.

That would be up to the feds to decide when the indict you. Which would appear likely.

Presumably you are being charged because the officer believed you were driving carelessly.

Too many variables. Try another lawyer.

The employer owns the recording and can show it to whoever they want.

Courts are split on this issue. You will have to sue them and see what a judge decides.

This is not a legal issue. None of us volunteer lawyers can tell you how to get a DMV appointment.