Best case scenario you are discharged with a bad discharge that will follow you the rest of your life.

This is a scam. Block all contact with them.....................

The theft was because of two people: You and the thief. Not the apartment complex.

This is a legitimate search. Hopefully his lawyer can work out a decent resolution for him.

As her parent, that is up to you..................

Hard to understand what you are saying here.....

We can't teach you how to practice law here. If you have a viable claim, finding a lawyer should be easy.

Is she your employer, the mother of your children, or something else? That would impact the answer.

This is not a legal issue. Call animal control.......

There is no way to force the military to accept you.