Is it true if you're not caught in the act of the crime you can't be arrested ?

Well you are your own best example that you can be arrested even if you are not "caught in the act." In fact most arrests occur after the fact.

Server's potential liability for serving alcohol to drunk individual.

If the police are questioning you then yes you need a lawyer.

My question is :: What can I do to make these go away & obtain my license without doing jail time?

Have you ever thought of hiring a lawyer to help you clean up this mess? Lawyers deal with situations like yours every day.

What are my chances of getting this case dismissed ?

You have very little chance of getting the case dismissed, and therefore no chance of becoming a State Trooper, unless you hire a lawyer to help...

What can be done? How is arraignments once a month lawful? Next step? A lot of this does not seem right!

I am not sure what you were reading but there is not requirement that an arraignment be held in any specific time. A first appearance must happen...

What are my rights? What should or can I do? I have never ever being in trouble with the law.

The most important right you have is the right to an attorney. Exercise it and hire a lawyer as you are now in trouble with the law.

What are the chances of me going to jail if it my first offense how do i get out of it

You have at least two defenses to this case. However unless you have a lawyer representing you in court you are putting yourself at risk of being...

Yes, probation can be terminated early in some cases. I would not recommend asking the probation officer for help. Instead I would suggest your...

Disorderly conduct ticket

Well, now that you got a ticket, you need to get a lawyer. As your employer to hire a lawyer to represent you.

If she does not return for depo or trial even though the state has picked up the charge, is the case likely to be dismissed?

Why in the world would you try to get a deposition from her if she's not goning at appear at your trial?