I have resigned my job because I must care for my terminally Ill 100% disabled (service related--time of war) veteran husband.

You can appeal the VA determination and you should ask to be paid by VA as his caregiver--there are provisions for that. Get a consult w/ a local...

What are my options?

St down with a local elder law attorney and review the matter.

My spouse is trying to get alimony from me I am a disabled veteran I receive Va benefits and Social Security.

Your spouse may be entitled to an apportionment of VA compensation IAW 38 CFR 3.450 and 3.452 if there is a valid support order.

Can i be charged when my name is on a home but i do not occupy the co owner does? Can this indefinitely affect my va benefits?

Anything is possible. If you get convicted of a felony, yes, VA benefits can be reduced. Get yourself an attorney immediately and get good...

Can the state count tax free disability pay from the VA in a divorce?

If VA is paying you at the "with dependent" rate, expect that she can go after a portion of your VA disability if she gets a valid support order. ...

Do i need a lawyer. If I confront my step brother about taking advantage of my father by living off his money.

I think you need a lawyer just to help you get your thoughts together and figure out how to best proceed.

Can I get part of military retirement that is paid as disability?

You need a consult with a local family law attorney that understands military retirement and VA benefits.

Talk with the attorney who set up your trust for you.

Will estate beneficiary lose everything left to them to settle medical bills?

I suggest a consult w/ a local estate attorney. Unless the mother's will provided for some specific protections (such as a special needs trust),...

How do I go about leaving money to my grandniece for her to get at age 25?

Talk w/ a local trust attorney about setting up a trust.