What can I do, what can of defense can I use

On its face, you committed theft--get a local criminal defense attorney immediately.

What actions can I take?

I see nothing actionable in the fact pattern you relayed.

Its going to depend on the specific nature and wording of the pension entitlement--someone has to administer mom's estate, so get a consult w/ an...

Who do i contact if my wife is illegally taking(selling) her terminally cancer diagnosed mom's vicodon and morphine?

That's illegal activity--start w/ local law enforcement. Its your wife, so you may want to think about getting her some help--then a trusted...

Answer on question, do I retain any type of benefits if I have 1 honorable discharge and 1 dishonorable

Your primary issue with the 2nd discharge is that if you incurred a disability and its linked only to an event/events occurring during the second...

I'm looking for a Family Attorney who could take on the rule of my disability advocate and possible future needs. .

Use the AVVO "Find an Attorney" tab to find a local social Security attorney.

Am I required to hire a lawyer to handle the probate of my fathers estate as he had no will?

If a home and vehicle are involved, I'd sure spend the minimal amount of money an estate attorney might charge to ensure proper title passed. If a...

How much time can pass to contest a will?

More facts are needed, particularly if an estate was opened. Get a consult w/ a local estate attorney.

In what year did the department of veterans affairs begin to reduce benefit payments to disabled veterans incarcerated?

Current 38 USC 5131 became effective as a part of PL 96-385 on October 7, 1980, so benefits should have been reduced at least from that date...

Her actions were criminal. Understand you may want your cousin to press charges; you can, as well.