Can I sue my lawyer for taking my money and not going to court at the last minute?

Get your money back. Get a reset at the court date and hire an attorney that cares about you and your case.

How do I go about getting this situation handled

If you are saying that you were a victim then you need to notify that counties/municipalities victim witness office. You can also hire an attorney...

How can I get around this situation

Refer to your divorce decree about his abusive nature. The rest is generally about custody and how it is dealt with.

Unless you were fingerprinted then the incident should not show on a criminal background check.

CAN I get the CHARGES dropped disorderly conduct by proving that there was no intent to actually commit those crimes

Please see my answer to your other question.

Can I get this reduced to disorderly conduct by proving that there was no intent to actually commit crime against that person

Are you divorced from this person? Do you have a settlement agreement? It takes a little more than threats to qualify for the terroristic threats...

What to do if my ex husband is harassing me and my relatives? My ex is trying to stir up trouble. Help

If you don't have an attorney get one at least for a free consultation. You may be able to have a TRO on your husband and modify other provisions...

If I show up at new arraignment hearing and plead not guilty will I go to jail anyway since bond was revoked? I have a PD.

Why have you not spoken with your Public Defender about this? They will take you into custody if you have an active warrant. Of course, whether or...

How do I fine out if she is getting SS benefits from the kids? And if she is should the kids not be getting the money?

If you want to alter the terms of custody or inquire where she isn't giving information you can file a motion on altering those terms and request...

Can I plead first offenders

Without knowing the situation in which you received these charges and your history no attorney can give you any idea on what to do.