He needs to retain counsel and file to establish legitimacy in the superior court of the county where the mother resides. He may need to add the...

He needs to file a case to establish legitimacy. Presuming they are not married he currently has no parental rights.

He needs to retain counsel and file for divorce. These days, most people can be found unless they are entirely "off the grid."

She can "refuse" all she wants to. That only means there may never be any settlement of the case. Without settlement that case will go to trial...

Child support will be a part of the mix. Alimony, maybe, maybe not. You do not mention how long you have been married, which will have to do with...

I do not see any question in your post. Are you asking about what you can do about the employee or about the divorce process.

Why not ask the lawyer that you have hired and paid? Typically, the defendant will need to appear whether represented or not.

You have no parental "rights" to give up when a child is born outside of wedlock and legitimacy has not been established by court order. Often this...

You spent money that you do not have, and now cannot pay, which means the creditors can sue you, as apparently, they have. If you fail to answer...

There is no way to prospectively to prevent the name change. The case will be resolved in one of two ways, settlement or trial. If in an...