How can I make sure my kids are safe from her?

If you want legal rights, go to court and have paternity established. That is a straighforward process and you can find it online....

Do we have to get a lawyer in Alabama or can we get a lawyer here in Oklahoma?

Get a lawyer wherever the child support case is.

I have sole and physical custody of my grandbaby, am i able to move out of the country?

Check the exact terms of your order. If it says yes, then yes. If it says no or is silent, you should go get a court order permitting the move.

What can I do?

Sorry, but this really is not a legal question. Unless you want to have the court system involved to declare her a problem and relieve you of...

Questios

You go to the courthouse where the judge was and you look in your case file. All orders are there.

Do i have legal right to demand to see my child on mothers day?can CP ignore phone calls/texts?when does CP have to recontact me

1- there is no law requiring Mother's Day to be with anyone's mother, especially where you do not have legal or physical custody of your child. You...

Does the Law consider I have "accepted his adultery by not filing for Divorce & keep my Insurance or can I still charge him ?

You can charge him. You could not file for divorce on your grounds of abandonment or for no-fault until he lived apart from you for a year anyway....

Does a new CA resident need to establish residency in CA before applying for child support?

I read your comments. If the other parent lives in CA, you can file immediately. You will have to file a paternity action if there is no divorce...

That is a bad idea. You do not need a lawyer to serve someone in prison, there is a simple process for that. The prison/jail website probably...

How does a 16 yr old go about pressing charges on their step mother for physical abuse and get an epo so he can stay gone?

For your pound of flesh: CPS is the best start because they have the file already. Yes, he can call the police on her. Yes, he can seek a DVRO....