If you were told you could pay it off - that was likely by the cop that stopped you. You really wanna take the advice of someone who is...

Of course not. What do you plan to sue him for?

If things happened the way you say, then likely there was no court order in place at the time you made the likely bad decision to allow your child...

Become an elected Judge. If you are saying you want to ask the court to consider terminating a parents rights then you file a petition. You would...

Nothing will happen - unless you are convicted. If so you will likely go to jail.

Sure if you buy out her interest. Of course, if she wanted to she could force a sale of the land and just make you pay her her half.

If they were put in your name during the marriage - they are marital property. If your father has some claim he needs to speak to an attorney.

The contents of your question (which is really just a long statement) indicates you have the wrong idea of just about everything you talked about...

Alimony is not necessarily an entitlement so if your spouse doesn't want to agree to pay then you are going to have to ask a Judge to order him to...

Yes, you likely can but that takes the divorce way out of 'simple' or likely affordable. You are going to have to prove to the courts satisfaction...