I am unable to serve my ex. I paid the sheriff, my sister send a certified letter and we are just not able to get in touch.

You can file a request for alternative service with the court setting forth all the efforts you have done to try and locate and server her. If the...

Can I throw away my child's phone that my ex wife paid for?

The short answer is at a minimum you will have to reimburse her, and as Ms. Gray referenced depending on what the court order says you may have...

Currently, the child whose parent files for child support first has the greater claim for child support over the other child.

If my spouse files his papers today is it going to mess up my default court case?

If your spouse is not contesting any portion of the divorce (the divorce itself and the division of whatever other topic within the divorce) then...

Is child support a thing for unmarried parents

It is possible and depends on how different the parties income to determine, what, if any, child support may be owed.

Will I be able to get my custody back and more?

If neither of you filed to modify the custody order then once the protective order expires the prior order goes back into effect. Because you have...

Will they drop dismiss the case if I don’t show up in court ? If i wrote a statement dealing wit domestic violence ?

If it’s criminal no. However since you are married to the defendant and if you have never invoked your marital privilege before you can invoke it.

Can u drop charges if it’s a domestic violence charge ? ?

If it’s criminal no. However if you are married to the defendant and have never invoked your marital privilege before you can invoke it.

Holidays in a court order?

Court orders are what governs unless both parties agree otherwise.

How can I re-apply for child support areas ?

You may be too late, however, to say for certain, you may want to sit down with an attorney offline and bring both court orders you referenced.