What is it that I need to do in this situation am I allowed to take my son with me without her boyfriend being able to stop me?

There is no black and white answer. You should consult with an attorney and discuss all facts relevant to this matter. In the end, the Court will...

Although not that common, it is possible. You will have to show that the other party is not carrying their weight and contributing to the household...

You should speak to your local police department about the filing of criminal charges. Often times, they do not want to get involved in domestic...

Can I do anything to un suspend the child support and him to continue to acure child support? Any fighting chance? Or screwed?

The situation is unfortunate, however, both he and the children may be entitled to SSD (including derivative benefits) which WILL count as income...

Do I have a chance at sole custody or even 50 50?

In short, yes, you have a "shot." There are custody factors that the court must look at, and as my colleague pointed it, they specifically state...

Can you ask to modify parental responsibility as a relief for contempt?

A finding of contempt may help when you attempt to modify custody, but a modification would not usually be done at the same time as contempt...

What are my options

More information is needed to properly answer your question.

Can the courts have a mother show where child support is being spent? And with this info what chance do we have at custody?

It appears that the issue of what she is using support on may be the least of your issues. It may not be in the children's best interest to...

What can i file to have the court excluded my ex-wifes testimony at the hearing and to get report cards and force my VChat?

It is unlikely that her testimony will be excluded, however, it will be up to the Judge to determine her credibility.

Do I have any recourse of action?

You should contact an attorney to assist you with this matter.