Former employer asking for ssn for form 1099. Amend now or after receiving the return and amend?

When you say 'submitted' your return, do you mean to the IRS or to the tax preparer? If it was to the IRS, I would file the 1040X as soon as...

You should modify or cancel the prenup in writing with your signatures acknowledged. I have seen the case where the couple attempted to do this...

While it would not likely be worth your time to pursue the matter individually, I would make a complaint with the state Attorney General's office...