Can I get a reduced penalty for operating without insurance?

Maybe. Some upstate judges will allow you take your plea back if you can demonstrate you didn't fully understand the consequences of a guilty plea....

Your business is open to the public, hopefully registered with the state, & can be listed on a public website without your consent.

Are there possible criminal charges or destruction of property charges in nys in this situation?

Maybe you were set up. Maybe this actually happened. Either way you could be charged with criminal mischief. The best way to handle this...

Can someone be convicted of a felony gun charge, with no gun found ?

The eyewitness testimony is enough to convict. Your friend needs a lawyer.

Can a person who's in probation can married his Codefendet who's on parole

This would require permission from both the parole & probation officers. You would need that same permission to communicate & be around each other....

Is it legal to post a fake social networking profile then add somebody you know? State is New York State.

It's illegal. Don't do it.........................

What can I do to prevent ever being arrested again?

It sounds like there's an order of protection. If that's the case, you shouldn't be living with her because you could get charged with criminal...

Can there be a civil suit from a Harassment in 2nd shoving a person

The "wicked witch" as you call her can sue you civilly. Your best bet is to walk down the yellow brick road to a lawyer's office, & then retain...

What do I do when there is an unknown additional lawyer who is hearing and sitting in on my case without my acknowledgement?

Your first mistake was representing yourself. This might explain why the case has gone on for "several years." If this case is the least bit...

Is it too late to appeal in New York?

It's too late to appeal. Your only remedy might be a CPL 440 motion, but your money is probably better spent playing the lottery.