Do I ( the spouse ) have to pay my deceased wifes medical bills?

As a spouse you receive one automobile, so you can sell it.

Do me and or my sister inherit the property after death?

You and your sister are now owners with any other siblings. Mortgage needs to be paid.

Is this legal?

Standard rule. court wants to be sure proper parties are notified.

You certainly may use another attorney for updating her Will. Hope you can find one to visit house.

Yes. Children need to be cited by the court when the Will is offered.

Siblings are equal regardless of age. Hire a lawyer.

Can a deceased next of kin over ride an administrator on the deceased bank account ?

Only a court can appoint an administrator. Then the administrator must account in court.

Will I get my deceased mother’s share of inheritance ?

Take the Will to an attorney in the county where your mother lived.

My daughter, who is executor of my will, now divorced has resumed her maiden. Must will be changed? ?

While not absolutely required it will make things easier in the long run to have your name as Executor match your license, etc. To avoid the...

Do I have to take my dead husbands name off deed to my home or can my kids when I die just use his death certificate to closing

If parents held as tenants by the entirety all you need is the death certificate.