Can we change visitation without lawyers? Will it effect anything for future custody/support?

Technically, you can change your visitation arrangement without the assistance of lawyers but it is not wise to do so. I do not know what form...

I filed for divorce in NY four years ago. I live upstate 400 miles away. I recently had a second heart attack and simply cannot

You can bring a motion for a change of venue. If you are unable to travel, the court will seriously consider your application.

Contact the District Attorney's office but I highly doubt that they will prosecute.

You cannot sue for those comments. It is the speaker's opinion and it is very unlikely that you suffered any damages.

Assuming you meet the NYS residency requirements, you can file for divorce in New York. Your husband's absence from the state will not prevent you...

Is mailing an amended petition considered proper service?

Once issue has been joined, service of an amended pleading by mail is sufficient.

Steps to collect money owed

You can sue the players in small claims court and win a judgment against them. Once you receive the judgment, you can contact the sheriff to...

How does social media affect child custody battles?

The standard in a custody case is "the best interests of the child" which basically encompasses any relevant aspect of either party's life. ...

No your husband cannot kick you out. If he does so, call the police. Additionally, you should immediately contact an attorney for a consultation.

Do the same rules apply to an attorney if he owes back child support?

All of the same laws should apply regardless of whether your ex is an attorney.