Should i let the hospital give my medical records to my car insurance, or should i pay the bill myself?

You need to retain an attorney who handles no-fault litigation,. If the intox caused the crash you are liable for the bill.

Does she have a viable lawsuit? Should she contact an attorney immediately or does she need a second opinion first?

All the attorneys have provided excellent advise. Please follow their lead. Hopefully, baby and mom are otherwise fine. Congratulations grandpa.

As above ?

Yes and yes. You should always speak with an attorney before dealing with any insurance company. Good luck.

Do I have a case for professional slander or defamation?

Unless you have a contract, it is unlikely there is a case to pursue. Speak with an attorney. Good luck.

Would it work against me if I quit my job because of the hostility and judgment that I feel the manager has caused?

If you quit you are not entitled to unemployment insurance. Whether you have a claim to pursue against your employer for a hostile work environment...

Did the hospital have you sign an assignment? They should proceed against the insurer. You would appear to have a valid defense.

Do I need to be careful of what I say in my injury claim? Is it even worth it to report? What should I do?!

Best to speak (not email/type) with a workers compensation lawyer.

I need a lawyer to help me with my case that happened over 2 years ago. I went to hospital had surgery and ended up worse

As stated, you must contact an attorney. Hurry. Look to hire the one you are most comfortable with and confident in. Good luck.

Is it possible that I really will receive the settlement within the next week or two?

Go sit down and speak with your lawyer. Good luck.

Can I use the medical forms and the order granting the defense to get my updated medical school records.

This is precisely why you should have an attorney representing you. Submit everything you can to support your claim.